What is sexuality?

Sexuality is the word we use to describe our sexual interests and preferences. For some people these will stay the same throughout their lives, but for others they may change as they get older. It does not matter if you know what you like and stick with it or if you like to experiment, what is important is that you feel comfortable with the sex you are having, if you are having sex, and the person or people you are sharing your sex life with.

Same sex attraction

It is not at all unusual to feel attracted to someone of the same sex and many people experience crushes or very close friendships with someone of the same sex as they are growing up. For lots of people this does mean that they are gay or lesbian, and they go on to have relationships with people of the same sex. For others, their feelings may change and they will find that they are more attracted to the opposite sex, or even both sexes.

All the same

One really important thing to remember is that sexual feelings, sex and relationships can be confusing, exciting, scary and wonderful whoever you are attracted to, and the way you feel when you fancy someone is the same whether you like boys, girls or both.

People often think that being gay means you can’t have a family or get married. In fact, this is not true and plenty of gay men and women have children naturally, foster or adopt. Also since 2005 gay couples have been able to enter into civil partnership, giving them the same rights and responsibilities that married straight couples have.

When it comes to safer sex and avoiding sexually transmitted infections it also does not matter who you are having sex with, so it is important that you know how to protect yourself whether you are gay, straight or bi.